she wants to find her match

(disclaimer - any similarities to any person, couple or love triangle whether living or dead is not intentional. bato bato sa langit, ang tamaan, well, tinamaan. maybe it's time you assess your heart.)
 
here's a story:

a girl, well she's heartbroken. not only because her boyfriend left her but also because 2 years and a half after, he finds THE ONE that he will marry. but the girl has not yet moved on. so now, this girl, well she's hell bent on finding her perfect match.

what's wrong with the scenario?

"she's hell bent on finding her perfect match..."

 Whoa! Finding? Really??!

You may ask, what's wrong with finding. Oh trust me something's wrong with it. Here - A WOMAN WAS NEVER MEANT TO FIND. SHE IS THE ONE TO BE FOUND.


first let's dissect the scenario. her boyfriend left her. broke her heart. but why? dont they have a good relationship? let's say they have. let's say they have been together for 5 years already. that's too long right? they have been thru a lot of uphills and downhills yet, we ask, what went wrong? i'll give you options.

A. the girl got too clingy, too needy and too emotional.
B. the guy called it quits because she was just a convenience he could not leave back then but he got the guts and called the whole thing off.
C. they were never meant to be.


what will be your choice? if im the girl, i'd rather believe that C is the answer. that we were just not meant to be. but what if it's A? well, atleast the girl will learn from her mistake and assess herself why she became "too much". But what if it's B? Oh boy! that's the most painful among the choices. To hear that the guy never really loved you and he just stayed because YOU ARE A CONVENIENCE? Tsk tsk tsk. What a jerk right?

let's focus on Option B. She was just a convenience. There are different kinds of convenience. For example, he just likes having her around because she's like a good barkada. Or maybe, he likes to have her around for the sex. Or maybe, she's just to good to him that he thinks she's too convenient to be a comfort zone. But nonetheless, whatever type of convenience the girl was, the fact remains that she was JUST a convenience. Hurtful aint it? trust me, a lot of girls are in that situation right now. and a lot has been into that situation before. Are there really that many jerks in the world? Well YES. But, there are always 2 sides of the coin. The guy was a jerk, we know that already. But what about the girl? What type of girl is she?

The Girl. She's your average girl. pretty but not extraordinary in the looks department. not model type, nor is she the prettiest face in the crowd. typical girl. friendly. bubbly. cheerful. nothing wrong with those description right? but here's the thing, one guy would describe her as EASY. but why? could this be the reason she was just a convenience? could it be that she's tagged as easy because the guy texted her "sweet" text messages for a week and she's already got her heart on her sleeve telling the whole wide world that she's in love? or maybe, she took a liking for guy first, thus she moved heaven and hell just to get him. or maybe, just maybe, it's the subtle way she would always appear out of nowhere to chat with the guy, or maybe presenting food to the guy alluring him to what she can offer. You may ask me, "you call her easy only because of those things? are you nuts? are you judgmental?"

here's the thing, those things are not actions of a woman anchored deeply in her worth as a woman. a woman must wait patiently for the right timing from God. she must not be off pursuing men just because she likes them. she must also not rush off into a relationship without asking God, "is this right?" and hearing it loud and clear that "YES MY DEAR, HE'S THE ONE."

the thing is, most women, they tend to be the girl in the story. i, myself, have been at one point or another have been the girl in the story. and what did i end up with? A BROKEN HEART. BRUISED EGO. RIPPED SOUL. that's what happens when we put our wants and our will above God's.

But you might say, "but Yani, im in a relationship with a Christian man and we have the same beliefs. we pray for each other. i pray to God that He will bless the relationship." let me tell you this,

"you may fall in love with a born-again Christian man and he may be a man after God's own heart but it wont still be the perfect relationship unless God is the author of it."

Girls, never PURSUE. BE PURSUED.

but most especially, WAIT UPON THE LORD. Do not put matters into your own hands.




:)