try before i buy

i was favored by God with time to be able to attend Church yesterday with my friends and Jeremy and yesterday's topic was about SEX. The whole month of February, our church series is entitled LOVE LIFE and for 3 weeks, the topics revolve around LOVE, MARRIAGE and SEX. the preachings on Marriage and Sex became very informative for me this year as compared to last year because this year, I know I am really preparing to be a wife. so in line with the Love life series, here's a blog about the topic on Sex. (i blogged about last week's preaching on marriage in my blog Investing on a Christian Marriage)

before Pastor Julius Fabregas started his preaching, he showed us a video clip of the movie No Strings Attached. at the end of the clip, the character portrayed by Natalie Portman asked the character played by Ashton Kutcher this very alarming question. She asked, "Why can't we just have sex?" I was like shaking my head and saying, "WHAT THE!" (okay disclaimer. i didnt really intentionally finish the expression with the F-word so please no to legalism here.) How can a girl be the one to ask that and why should someone even ask that! Im not saying im blameless or i've never really been sinful. of course everyone falls short of being blameless and our sinful nature often takes over. but when you come to the point that as a woman you already know your worth in Christ and your worth as a woman, you'll know that SEX shouldnt come first before LOVE and MARRIAGE. and sex should only be enjoyed within the boundaries of marriage.

So why cant we really just have sex? here's why.

* 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8

  "(1)Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to PLEASE GOD, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you and urge you in the Lord Jesus to do this more and more. (2)For you know what instructions we gave you by the AUTHORITY of the Lord Jesus. (3)It is by God's will that you should be sanctified; that you should AVOID sexual immorality; (4)that each of you should LEARN to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, (5)not in passionate LUST like the heathen, who does not know God; (6)and that in this matter no one should WRONG his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. (7)For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a HOLY LIFE. (8) Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but REJECTS GOD, who gave you His Holy Spirit.(footnote, all capitalized words are the points discussed in the preaching yesterday.)

PLEASE GOD. Our role as Christians is not to live in the world but to live as disciples whose lives are pleasing to Him. We live for His pleasure and honor. We live to glorify Him. As a couple, OUR STORY SHOULD BE FOR HIS GLORY (ptr. Dennis and Thammie).

AUTHORITY. When God wants us to do something for Him, He does not give us suggestions. He gives us COMMANDS. He does this not because he is a KJ God but because He knows us far better than we know ourselves and He knows that if He will let us rule our lives without Him giving us commands, we are going to self-destruct.

AVOID Sexual Immorality. Sex outside marriage is considered sexual immorality. 'Nuff said.

LEARN to control your own body. As human beings, it is normal to get urges. sexual urges for that matter. we are wired that way. it is never wrong to feel those urges. what makes it wrong is what we do with those urges. if a man says He lives in Christ, he should know that fighting those urges is essential in His walk with God and that masturbation is not an answer to his urges. it is always an end result of lust.

LUST. Lust is always wrong. It diminishes the power of LOVE. It twists the context of sex and of love. Lust makes you hungry for more and more of something that is not right.

NO ONE SHOULD WRONG HIS BROTHER. When you give in to sexual immorality, it's not that you and your partner are not hurting anyone because of what you are doing. in fact you are hurting a lot. you are hurting his/her future spouse (if it's not going to be you). you are hurting a future mother and father in law. you are hurting a mother and a father. and all of those people are your brothers and sisters in Christ. it is also in this context that the word DEFRAUDING comes in. if the two of you are not really meant to be for each other and you know it in you heart, you defraud the other person by having sex with him/her. WHEN YOU HAD MULTIPLE SEX PARTNERS YOU LOSE THE ABILITY TO BOND WITH YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE.

A HOLY LIFE. Your passion for Christ takes care of you hunger for lust.

REJECTING GOD. Rejecting His commands makes you reject Him as your God. For how can you say Lord, Lord when you do not do as He says. Right?


Sex outside marriage leads to pain brokenness, frustrations and broken relationships. Often times it can also lead to depression when you are the girl's first sex. When the two of you breaks up, it will make it so hard for her to let you go because she will always hope that you will return to her one day.

THERE IS NO CONTRACEPTIVE TO GUARD THE HEART.

NO PILL TO STOP THE HEART FROM BLEEDING ONCE THE RELATIONSHIP WHERE SEX IS PRESENT ENDS.

MEN, DO NOT TRY BEFORE YOU BUY. A WOMAN IS WORTH MORE THAN RUBIES OR ANY GEM AND ONLY HER GOD'S BEST SHOULD BE THE ONE TO GO TO BED WITH HER ONCE THEY ARE MARRIED. A MAN SHOULD BE WILLING TO PAY A LIFETIME FOR HER WORTH.