pursue her forever...

because of a couple that had lunch here at the restaurant, well here is another blog. they are just your normal, typical middle aged couple. but when they entered the door i noticed this - the husband did not even held it for the wife. and when they left, he was walking so far ahead of his wife. tsk tsk tsk. he did not even held the car door for her. i know that in our present time, the word CHIVALRY has lost its real meaning. most guys when you get on a bus and they see an old lady would ride the bus and there are no seats available, most of them would not stand up to offer their seat and others would even look away or put on the poker face and look like they did not notice the old lady. some would even have this twisted notion of the word chivalry. most guys i noticed would not give up his seat for an old woman but they would give it up for a sexy girl or a beautiful one. tsk tsk tsk... and they call themselves MEN. going back to the couple, it saddens me that the husband treats the wife that way. i dont know what the state of their relationship is but atleast he should have been gentleman enough to hold the door for her, to wait for her and to open the car door for her. call me a hopeless romantic but i have always pictured couples getting older together but sweeter as the years pass by. i remember a friend of mine from my first work place. he would always assist the girls from our office when we go up or down the stairs, and he would always open doors for us even if he has a lot of things in his hand. he does the same to his wife, the only difference is he would do it extra sweetly to her. that's how precious she is in his eyes. how loved, how taken cared of.

according to married women i talk to, some of the husbands nowadays fail to keep this one thing in mind. that pursuing their wives do not end when at the day of the wedding. pursuing the wife is lifelong. i remember being told at church that A MAN SHOULD BE WILLING TO PAY A LIFETIME FOR A WOMAN'S WORTH WITH INTEREST! a woman was a blessing that God has given to you and it should be pursued, taken cared of, and loved FOREVER. not only until the day she says I DO. how can a man say he is a man and he is following Christ if he does not do to his wife what Christ does to His church. how can a man say he walks in God's light if he does not treat every aspect of his life as God-given? that includes his precious wife, a princess in God's eyes. it's a sad to embrace the fact that not all men are wired to be like that. not all men would look unto God as their role model in loving. with this fact that we are faced with, as godly women of God our task is to pray for godly men to rise up from the present generation so that God's princesses would be loved in the right way, the way God has designed them to be loved. men, there are a lot of women out there praying for their God's best. the prayer of YOUR God's best will take too long to be answered if you dont shape up and become the godly man that you should be. shape up man! you are meant to be the head, the provider, the protector. and with that responsibility comes a command from God - TO LOVE YOUR WIFE AS CHRIST LOVES HIS CHURCH(Ephesians 5:25). it is a command to every husband, to every man. a command that God has given. so the next time you say, I AM A GODLY MAN, check first the way you treat your wife, your fiance or your girlfriend.