MOVE!

spending the half of my monday at home made me read a lot of blogs by men of God who writes good and sensible blogs about almost anything from God, family, friendships and of course the most popular topic of all time - LOVE. while i was browsing Sean Si's blog page, I chanced upon his blog:

When you Surrender a Relationship…                      http://h3sean.com/relationship-surrender/

It was a really good read and I was inspired to write my own version of it. So here goes something.

Moving on - not the easiest thing to do because you have invested so much time and effort to make the relationship work. You have invested emotions and that very big word LOVE. Hey, I've had so many failed relationships in the past and MOVING ON is not really alien to me. In fact, moving on and me are the best of friends. Being a born-again Christian did not exempt me from heartbreaks and moving on. In fact, one of the worst heartbreaks I got was when I was already a born-again Christian. Moving on wasnt that easy as well. In fact, it took me a year to really finally move on. And I have just really moved on when I met the one God has created to be my God's best, my partner in life, my soulmate. For others, moving on take years while for others, 3 months can be it. Nonetheless, moving on should be a decision we make for ourselves and not for others. 

In his blog, Sean Si said "There are times in our lives when we don’t trust God enough with a certain relationship we’re holding on so tightly to. We think God can never bring it back again. And we think that God isn’t able to write our love story as much as we are able to." I agree to that statement. So here are my take about NOT moving on and STILL holding on.

Holding on means WE DON'T TRUST GOD. When God says, "Let go." and we say "God, will you give him back?", it is our way of telling Him, "God, I dont trust your plans for me. I dont trust in your power to give me the best."

Holding on means DISOBEYING GOD. When God says, "Let go." and we say, "God, NO! He is the one I want to be with. I love him so much.", it is a way of DISOBEYING the God you call LORD.  

⁴⁶ “Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?"

Holding on does not only hurt us but it also hurts the other party. By holding on, we burden the other party with guilt because he/she hurt us by leaving us. 

Holding on does not only hurt us but it also cause problems for the other party's new relationship. If the other person is already in a Godly relationship with the right person, our holding on can only cause trouble in paradise. It doesnt mean that the new partner is not secure of the relationship but who wants to deal with annoying EXs who just wont stop holding on right? I'm pretty sure, when we get the right and Godly relationship that we have prayed to have, we wouldnt want to deal with annoying EXs who are still holding on to our partner. Stop whatever you are doing and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Do we want our partner's EX girlfriend/boyfriend to continue holding on? Do we want our partner's EX to continue bugging the two of you with issues about him/her not being able to move on? Do we want our partner's EX to cling on and struggle with you that she/he should be in your place and that she/he should be the one with your partner because according to her/him, your partner was created for her/him?

So when we are having a hard time moving on and letting go, remember that HOLDING ON TO RELATIONSHIPS THAT HAVE BEEN ENDED BY GOD MEANS:

WE DONT TRUST GOD, WE DISOBEY HIM, AND WE HURT THEIR PRESENT GIRLFRIENDS AND FUTURE SPOUSES.

:)